Ever have one of those weeks that leaves you with one eye twitching, sleep-deprived and stressed out of your wits? Yeah….me too. In fact, back when I used to live in Kuala Lumpur, it was a way of life: on top of my full-time job as principal of a preschool and daycare center, I ran three other projects concurrently and would often go months without a day off. If that wasn’t enough, I was also a full-time single mother….my eye was used to twitching nonstop. Regardless of how much I had on my plate, I always made time for, quite possibly, the most important thing in my life: me!
I know, I know…it may sound cliché, but when we become accustomed to taking care of everyone else and forgetting that odd shower or meal for ourselves we are not the only ones that suffer: our kids, friends, significant others and our work-ethic feels the ramifications of our actions. When did martyrdom become a virtue? When did self-sacrifice become honorable and noble? When on Earth did being stressed out become a fad? It’s like driving your car until there is no fuel left, and insisting it runs on fumes…of course it is going to give you some trouble and eventually, break down!
My Aunt, Dame DC Cordova (I know…she is a Dame…like a REAL LIFE dame ~ she is amazing), has dedicated her life to eradicating poverty and hunger from the face of the Earth. And while she is jet-setting, traveling the world, meeting with politicians and heads of government, she does one thing differently from most other women I have met: she puts herself first and is really good at taking a bit of “me time”.
It sounds selfish, but I am convinced that this is a huge key to her success. I have observed her for years now, and while most days she is ready to take on the world, she won’t lift a finger until she has her pillow, her laptop, her organic tea and snacks, and has meditated (meditation is one way she likes spending her “me time”). Then and then only, let the games begin! I was driving her around Kuala Lumpur once when she got a call from some Tan Suri (this title in Malaysia is actually a pretty big deal), who wanted to meet up with her that day. Mind you, I was driving her to a hair appointment in a very swanky resort. She kindly declined him and told him that she was busy. When she got off the phone my jaw was in my lap, “Why on Earth would you tell a Tan Suri that you are busy? I thought you would make some time for him.” Without batting an eye she said, “Nope. I am getting my hair done.”
Mystified as I was, there was an important lesson to be learned. Some may call her behaviors selfish, but if anything, this woman has taught me what self-love is. Time is a currency in her world, and though she has a “whatever it takes” attitude, she makes sure all is right with her first. In essence, when I am right, the whole world around me is right. I can respond to situations easier instead of merely reacting to them, I am much more present to what is going on around me, and I can think and focus more clearly. So tell me, what is it to be selfish? If I DON’T take care of me first, everyone and everything around me suffers, and I can say goodbye to my goals.
Sometimes we ladies, need a break: whether it is from work, or family, or just because we have lost a sense of ourselves and need to regain our center. This is why it is so important to spend some time with other like-minded women in our community: because when “we” as women feel right, the whole world is right around us. My daughter can come into the room crying excessively while the phone is ringing, someone is at the door and all I am trying to do is hit my deadline with a paper, and I am unaffected emotionally. We have all had days where nothing can touch us, and then the slightest thing sets us off. Personally, I prefer the days where I am untouchable.
In an effort to create a space for women everywhere to love themselves more, we are launching our first-ever Ladies’ Night Out in Springfield, Missouri. And yes, it is a ladies-only event, save for one of our gentlemanly directors who may or may not grace us with his presence that night (we lovingly call him WeDAMN, or WeDan).
Soft-launch of Ladies’ Night Out Springfield, Missouri
What it is: It is a safe and fun environment for women to come together, chow on some food, drink some wine or beer, and meet with other awesome ladies in Springfield, Missouri in a lively atmosphere.
When is it: Held the first Wednesday of each month, the first one being May 4th, 2016 from 6 pm to 8 pm (though we will most likely have the floor until 9 pm).
How much is it: $25 if you purchase your tickets in advance, or $30 at the door.
RSVP: You can purchase your tickets online via eventbrite here, or by paying $30 at the door. Please confirm your attendance by April 30th so we can ensure your seat and/or your party’s seats are saved!
Additionally, if you have a local business or would like to explore partnership opportunities with us, feel free to drop us an email at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Looking forward to seeing you there!
We are WeDames, an online women’s magazine and women’s community based out of Springfield, Mo. We love connecting, having fun and empowering women in and around our awesome little city in two ways: one, we publish articles here on our local lifestyle magazine, and by also hosting women’s events, our favorite being a sort of “girls’ night out”… except we call it something slightly more dignified. Ladies’ night out is an excuse for us ladies to get dolled up, look your best, meet and schmooze with other amazing women in Springfield, Mo. It doesn’t matter whether you are a CEO of a company here in Springfield, a working professional, a stay-at-home mom or a student: if you identify as a woman and are 21 and over, you are good to go!
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