I love New Years’. It is my favorite time of the year – I usually go through my effects and give away all that isn’t being used, I write out what I would like to accomplish for the next 365 days, and I never get over the feeling of having a fresh start. But this time isn’t just about building on the “new” – it is also a time of reflection and seeing what worked, what didn’t work and what behaviors an individual need to change about themselves so they can achieve that which they set out to achieve.
I took some time to go over the goals I set for last year – some happened, and others didn’t (do you ever get that?) It feels like a 50/50 chance that your goals actualize. I usually experience this every year, but it isn’t a bad thing – it usually is an indicator that I need to change my approach to certain objectives. In an effort to make 2017 an awesome year, we did a little research on how to make your goals come to fruition – here are some ways you can reinvent yourself AND experience all which you set out to do.
How to Reinvent Yourself and Achieve Your Goals
You can choose to start on the surface level: change your hair, your look, your environment and so on. There is nothing wrong with this, but for lasting change, I agree with what Dana Acuri wrote:
“The secret of making lasting change is to acknowledge and accept that real change takes time and patience. We didn’t get chronically ill overnight. We didn’t gain weight in one week or even one month. Good chance, it may take us longer than twenty-one days to overcome whatever we’re facing. Whether it’s something physical, emotional, spiritual, or a combination, we may need to be realistic in our goals for meaningful change to happen. The first step is getting started!”
― Dana Arcuri, author of Reinventing You:
- Set a timetable
When I started out in my personal development journey some 12 years ago, timetables were not something I was good at. I would set the most unrealistic goals based on timetables which would/could never work. Losing 10 pounds in a day, for example… sure, it is achievable but you would have to lose a limb in order to do it! If you would like some awesome timetable templates to get you on the right track, check out this website here. They have some uh-mazing free templates which will sort you out daily, weekly and monthly!
- Have a plan for each goal
Having an action plan is vital to achieving your goals, and the best part is it doesn’t have to be a 500 page PERT plan…it can be as easy as changing one behavior a day in order to achieve your goal. Maybe it is opting for a salad at lunch, or stretching 15 minutes every day. Perhaps making 5 sales calls a day will help you reach your goal. Whatever it is, if you modify your behavior you will get different results.
- MAKE TIME!
This may sound corny, but taking an hour for yourself every day to feel as good as you possibly can work wonders. One of the biggest lies I’ve ever told myself was “I don’t have time.” I currently subscribe to a different thought-pattern – nowadays I have “more than enough” time to do all the things I set out to do and spend time with all the people who matter. Change your thoughts, change your emotions, change your behaviors and you have lasting change!
One of my business school instructors used to encourage everyone to have a daily “power hour” where they take 20 minutes to meditate, 20 minutes to work out and 20 minutes to read something uplifting. The point is if you aren’t willing to make time for change, it most likely won’t happen…after all, we are creatures of habit and changing our habits can be the best thing for us.
- Make inspiration a daily habit.
Personally, I think there is a big difference between motivation and inspiration: motivation is something outside of you which moves you, while inspiration comes from within. There is nothing wrong with motivation – sometimes our emotional state is such that we need to dangle a carrot in front of us to get us to move…my preference is enjoying the movement so much that I am inspired to …this eliminates needing to “work” at something in order to “achieve” your goals.
- Course-correct without invalidating yourself
First and foremost, you will have days you slip. It happens and it doesn’t make you a bad person….at all. What it DOES make you is human. If you can acknowledge your slip-up without beating yourself up, you are on your way to reaching your goals in record time!
- BE RESPONSIBLE
This is a HUGE lesson I learned and I do my best to stick to it. It is the easiest thing in the world to blame others, the government or outside factors for not achieving your goals or sticking to your guns. The thing is this: if you want change in your life it is up to you to make it happen.
I attended this course years ago called Money&You™ and this information has had a tremendous effect on my life. When you live in responsibility, you have more time, freedom and independence. You live life “above the line.” It is not possible to be responsible for your results in life while blaming others, shaming yourself or justifying why something did or didn’t happen. 10 years ago I attended this course and I AM STILL in the process of embodying this flip chart.
- Be respond-able
This is another lesson I am in the process of embodying: there is a difference between reacting to an unwanted situation and responding to said situation. In the past I had a habit of reacting, moping, complaining about whatever injustice I was experiencing. The thing is this – every time I complained about it, nothing changed. If anything, it only enhanced my already-aggravated emotions. Responding to a situation, however, opens your mind up to solutions immediately.
We all know whatever we focus on grows – so you can either focus on how upsetting a situation is or dedicate that energy to finding a solution to the challenge. The choice is yours!
In the end, knowing what we would like to see in our lives is easy – but changing our behavior can take a bit of time and patience. Changing one action a day can and will set you on the right path!