I know, I know – it’s super cliché to have an article like this in a magazine, but I don’t really care because it’s fun to write about.
So ladies and gents, how can you tell if a guy is into you? There are the obvious signs – the tickling, the exchange of late-night text messages, the brazen, “I really like you and think we should date,” conversations initiated by him – the list goes on and on. I’ve learned recently of a trend we didn’t have back in my day (wheeze…cough…cough….wheeze) – one which involves snap chat and specific male body parts, but let’s not digress!
There are those guys out there who don’t exactly give clear signs – the guys that leave you wondering whether or not they find you attractive or are even aware of your existence. Perhaps they don’t reply your texts within the same day, they’ve canceled on you once or twice, or they seem to be very busy. How can you tell if he is into you or blowing you off? Lucky for you, there is one sure-fire way you can be 100% sure whether or not he is into you. This is cutting edge technology that could revolutionize the way we date.
One Way You Can Be 100% Sure He’s Into You
I bet you are dying to know what this amazing method is (if you haven’t guessed it already), but I am going to draw this article out a LITTLE longer because I am in a cheeky mood and the coffee is kicking in. I’m kidding Springfield, calm down.
Here it is! Are you ready?
One way you can be 100% sure he’s into you is by….. freakin’ asking him. It may seem a little scary, but it works 100% of the time. I find that many people don’t do this despite its simplicity and effectiveness. Personally, I love it when someone is clear and blunt with me – mainly because I don’t always pick up on hints. In fact, I am so dense at times that if you don’t whack me in the face with a big book titled, “I REALLY LIKE YOU LET’S DATE,” I will probably not get the picture. I am a busy woman after all – I’ve got things to do, people to see and a girl to raise. I don’t have time to read between the lines. Surprisingly a lot of men are the same as I am – they don’t pick up on hints. This is where an old business school principle comes into play beautifully,
“CLARITY LEADS TO POWER.”
If you aren’t clear, then ask. This lesson also works well in business – if you aren’t clear on what it is you want when you meet someone, chances are you aren’t going to get it.
I know what you are thinking – not everyone is comfortable being so forthcoming, but sometimes getting what you want takes doing something different.
Naturally, the main thing which stops you from knowing 100% whether or not he is into you is fear. Many of us are afraid of being rejected, of losing face or looking like an idiot. I say look like an idiot and get it over with.
A Personal Story
Once upon a time, in a land in SE Asia, a really awesome lady enrolled in a business school which absolutely changed her life. The reason this school changed her life is because it made her do things which were totally and completely out of her reality box – things such as taking away her wallet, her money and her phone and throwing her out onto the street with the assignment of making RM20,000 (about $,5000) in five hours. They did other things such as make her get up on stage to give a speech and having THE ENTIRE CROWD heckle her, and if that wasn’t enough, for eight days straight they gave her so much work that she could only sleep three hours a night.
I know, it sounds awful, but it was all done in love and the young lady’s structure was forever changed. In the words of Robert Frost, the best way out is through. If you are afraid of rejection, my recommendation would be to go out there and get rejected. If you are afraid of public speaking, go out there and join toastmasters. Granted, this doesn’t work for all things – if you are terrified of spiders I would not recommend going out and getting a pet tarantula, or if you aren’t particularly fond of drugs, I would not suggest buying some. Come on people, keep it moral, ethical and legal!
In summary, while blatantly asking whether or not a guy likes you is not the most popular route, it is the most effective. Does it ensure you will get a date with that underwear model-looking hunk working in your favorite bar? No, but it CAN help you either seal the deal or move on faster. And in today’s modern age, time is of the essence – so here’s to making a fool out of yourself and living to tell the tale!