Have you ever gotten a new pair of shoes and EVERYONE notices them? You get compliments left and right, people ask where you got them and your feet feel better just being in them (unless you are still breaking them in). Fast forward a few weeks and, while your shoes may look just as good as the day you bought them, no one notices them. What is with that?
One Important Key to Staying Classy
Class and elegance, to me, has more to do with how you feel about yourself than it does with anything else. If I feel exceptionally pretty on any given day, people tend to notice and reflect those emotions back to me. If I feel ordinary, or as if my closet has lost its’ luster, I may look amazing but again, people tend to reflect my feelings back to me.
I have a friend who I was discussing this topic with one day. Her husband is from Paris, and according to him, how you feel about yourself actually starts with your underwear! According to the Frenchman (our loving nickname for him), first and foremost, brassieres and panties have to match. When I heard this, I couldn’t stop laughing – I thought it was ridiculous…until I actually tried it. Lo and behold, I felt a subtle difference in the way I carried myself.
Does this mean every day my bras and panties match? Pssshhh…I’m not telling you! You’d have to buy me dinner first. I kid Springfield! Deviating away from the topic of undergarments, the most important thing about staying classy, in my opinion, is paying attention to how you feel. This means your confidence, your attitude, how you feel about yourself, how you carry yourself and how you feel about the world and people around you. Once you have this down, the rest is simply aesthetics.
Looking Classy 101
First and foremost, looking classy does not necessarily mean you have to spend thousands of dollars on a wallet or a pair of shoes – you can look classy on a budget or without a budget.
In the words of Marilyn Monroe, your clothes should be tight enough to show you are a woman, but loose enough to show you are a lady. You can be sexy without trying too hard.
- Wear Fitted Clothes and Shoes.
If you had the choice of buying a designer sweater that was way too small on you, or a sweater for $10 which fit you perfectly, I would always recommend buying fitted clothes and shoes instead of a designer brand which doesn’t fit. It will hug your body and your curves just right, and even if it only cost a couple bucks, you will make it look designer even if it isn’t.
- Style Your Makeup & Hair Appropriate to the Occasion.
If it is the weekend, I dress casually, and if I am out and about during the week, I opt for a more professional look. If I am going to a networking event, I go for a smart-casual event depending on whether it is business or social networking. Personally, I do make an effort to look nice according to the occasion – my hair tied up or back for professional events and down for casual meetups.
- Be Comfortable.
Everyone can tell if you aren’t comfortable. If your clothes are fitted, chances are you will be comfier and at ease in your own skin. The last thing you want is to wear something you aren’t sure about and then be self-conscious the whole day.
- Own your style, whatever that may be.
If you like dresses and frills, own it. If you are a slacks–and long-sleeved shirt kind of gal, rock it. It doesn’t matter if you are into Springfield vintage, chic or modern looks, style is something unique and personal to each individual. If you look at the work of Rembrandt versus Diego Fazio, perhaps you will get what I mean.
Diego, while he can draw very realistic images, is what an artist friend of mind calls “a copy-cat.” According to said friend, a senior art director for a top 10 world bank and has been in the advertising line for over 25 years, Diego doesn’t have his own style – he merely copies nature. Rembrandt, on the other hand, does have his own style as do many other famous artists like Van Gogh, Claude Monet, Georgia O’Keeffe, Frida Kahlo and so many others. What is your style?
In summary, I would say being classy has a lot to do with how you feel emotionally and physically. If you feel confident in yourself as a person, it will show. If you feel your “look” is too edgy for others to understand, you will experience that in your day-to-day life. If you feel your closet needs a little sprucing up but you don’t know where to start, call Kandice from 5 Elements – she will sort you right out. First, take care of how you feel about yourself, THEN tackle your closet!
Stay classy Springfield!